Now that you know how your thoughts and feelings impact your progress, it is time to take action.
In ICM, we will spend quite some time to work on the meaning of your thoughts and feelings, in order to create self-awareness, understanding and a new reality for you. Various coaching approaches will be applied depending on what you need coaching with and what situation arises in your life. However, a few approaches will be common across all coaching types.
Building alternative thoughts, feelings and actions
Example of scenario : Your co-worker Paula did not talk to you as much as usual this week. You think it is because of something that happened earlier during the week. You feel resentful that she did not speak to you, and you fear that they may be holding critical judgments of you.
Just because you have a thought does not mean it is true. Your thoughts are guesses about why something happened, or about something that might happen. Coming up with new thoughts will help you see a situation differently.
Let’s now generate new thoughts, feelings and actions for this scenario.
Alternative 1
- 💭 Paula might be upset or angry with you, but may be not. You do not know.
- ❤️You are concerned that Paula might be upset or angry, but you are not as resentful as you were.
- 🎬Ask Paula if she is angry at you, or if she has another problem.
Alternative 2
- 💭 Paula has probably been busy with work or something else.
- ❤️You feel disappointed but that you have not asked Paula earlier.
- 🎬 You will be friendly with Paula as usual and say “hello”.
Alternative 3
- 💭 Paula is probably dealing with a big problem outside work.
- ❤️You feel worried about how Paula is feeling.
- 🎬 You ask Paula what is going on, how she is and if she needs help.
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